Couples Therapy

Marriage

After marriage, deeper issues surface. Once the sense of commitment is secure, individual “shadows” may arise. We begin to take one another for granted, neglecting the work that began before the solid commitment. Early on, there’s more at risk so we show up and present in a good way. Later, we tend to loosen up, spend more time apart, and become distant.

Learning maintenance, reconnecting and finding spark again. Sexuality, intimacy, may not be found as easily.

Ideally, come in for counseling as soon as possible. Don’t wait until it’s too late. If you find you are short with your partner, you have less patience or have lost curiosity, these are signs you can benefit from counseling. If you find your interactions lack intimacy and spark, you are drifting apart, or have become either more distant or confrontational, we can work through these issues.

Even if you’re merely curious about how to better the relationship, reach out. Come in for prevention. We often get into deeper stuff.

Let’s help you get to a secure, well-functioning relationship:

In marriage counseling, you can:
– Sort out the root causes of disagreements
– Encourage compassion and understanding
– Develop healthy communication practices
– Add depth, connection, and richness to your marriage
– Live a more fulfilling life

Save yourself years of unnecessary stress and frustration.

Open & Polyamorous Relationships

As a couples counselor, I welcome and make space for people in all kinds of relationships – open, monogamous, committed, dating – including LGBTQ+.

Each couple is different and we need to figure out what system works for you.

A lot of communication needs to happen to feel good about polyamorous relationships. Clear agreements help you feel secure. This is true in any relationship, but especially when two or more people are involved. It can be challenging to handle alone.

You may have one primary relationship, with some level of openness, or a more complex arrangement. Attachment theory and secure functioning principles can be applied in all scenarios.

In nontraditional couples counseling, you can:
– Deal with jealousy, boundaries
– Claim your sexuality and embrace intimacy
– Navigate shared life commitments while exploring new horizons
– Assess points of confusion or tensions
– Set boundaries, create structure, and resolve differences
– Develop clear agreements for any relationship

Let go of fear and uncertainty.